After having conference calls all day, my mind is mush. I really want to write a bunch of stuff but I literally can’t make the words come out of my fingers or mouth. So here is today’s selfie.
Just putting up the daily selfies before I forget about it. Not going to write anything since I slept awful last night.
Another good article on what is going on in our community has come out today – this time from Violet Blue published on Engadget (which ironically is owned by Verizon but has managed to stay independent of the corporate overlords) – https://www.engadget.com/2018/12/07/the-internet-war-on-sex-is-here/
If you read nothing else from the article – take to heart the following paragraphs.
So, since that’s what they all say, it’s probable no one really knows why Tumblr is doing this; FOSTA has been blamed, and so has Apple’s app store gatekeeping practices. Rightly so, because Apple’s role in censoring and suppressing sexual speech is longstanding, and so vile and insidious that it’ll make you rage-smash an iPhone if you take it all in at once.
But the arc of internet sex censorship is long, and it bends as far away from justice (and reason) as possible. Corporations controlling the internet had been steadily (and sneakily, hypocritically) moving this direction all along, at great expense to women, LGBT people, artists, educators, writers, and marginalized communities — and to the delight of bigots and conservatives everywhere.
While my generation only read about the sexual revolution, it feels like we are about to re-live it. This time with faster communication and a way more connected word.
My advice – don’t let others take away your rights to be who you are. The world is not all within an app – don’t be afraid to leave the walled gardens corporations have made for you.
Interesting times we are in. I think we are seeing the effects of FOSTA/SESTA hit. If you don’t know what it is Vox has a great article talking about what they expected the impacts to be. https://www.vox.com/culture/2018/4/13/17172762/fosta-sesta-backpage-230-internet-freedom Yet, the vagueness of the laws have made it so that legal and consensual adult content is wrapped up in it. Can you really blame the platforms for taking a wide and vague stance on what may constitute it given the risks? Do we as a community offer enough revenue in order for one of these giant social media companies to fight for us?
Major platforms are executing hair-trigger bans, content deletion, and account removals over content that used to be allowed. This weekend alone, two of my friends got put into FB jail over a images that would have been fine in the past. By my own review of the current Facebook community standards my morning selfies could be in violation if they wanted to make the argument for it.
My concern is many in the fetish, kink, and queer communities are starting to get deplatformed. The one that scares me is what happens when Facebook decides that our events can’t be published there. Facebook has become the defacto event planning tool for many – and I have not seen anyone provide a good replacement for getting the word out online about events. And very recently – there was a Vox article about how effective no-platforming has been and how it may impact anyone. https://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/2018/12/5/18125507/milo-yiannopoulos-debt-no-platform
As a result of all of the turmoil, I have not been posting my selfies up to Facebook directly wondering will I trigger off something. Maybe I will post one up with the link to my post here and see if anything happens. One of my friends think I will be fine since my selfies often have that component of Men’s Health along with it (running, cycling, etc). He may be right – and I hope so.
In other news – should I go to Aquaman wearing this next weekend?
Over the last 18 days I was on a road trip and now the reality of having to catch up and go back to work is kicking in. Sometime between now and this weekend I will get my Silicon Valley Pride pictures done (since I didn’t have time before the trip to finish them) and start slowly typing my journal from the trip. I am going to get back more to my normal pattern in a bit.
Twitter has been an outlet of Social Media that I have just given up on. The reason why is that so many people that I follow retweet a lot of stuff without any comments added. As a result, my feed is just 95% retweets with very little original content. For the most part, the only time I cared about Twitter is when I got push notifications from a very select few about their tweets or a DM on it. In the end, it became useless for me.
This was a life changer for me. My twitter feed has slimmed down a lot. And while retweets with comments are still there – this was the exact behavior I wanted since I often like to see what people think of something they are sharing. You still get the x people have liked a tweet things – but compared to what my feed looked like before, this is now manageable. I have a feeling I will be using Twitter a lot more now.
And in other news – I never linked the following two galleries on my SFW site here and probably should:
1200 miles in 52 hours. Yesterday alone was nearly 600 miles of riding that contained 4 mountain passes and 100 miles of 30-40mph headwinds. On top of that my chain decided to go from being good but nearing the end of the adjustment range to OMG – REPLACE ME NOW in the last 150 miles of the trip.
But what a lovely trip it was. I will be posting up a trip report and pictures tonight or tomorrow. But it’s time to shower and get my ass to the office.
Yesterday I attempted to sell my car. However due to a huge mess with the California DMV, CarMax is unable to buy my car until California has things updated right. So despite having a free and clear title in hand I get to deal with the DMV tomorrow. *tears hair*
The good news is the new espresso machine has seemed to adjusted the grinder dosing (yes, the machine is self-learning). The coffee that is coming out of it is a lot better than my old machine. It appears that this grinder is grinding the coffee finer than the last machine. Also – the coffee is hotter. I was starting to suspect the old machine was reaching its last legs even before it broke. With it so cold, I decided that I needed to pre-warm my gear before hopping on Matte.
And I just did things for me today. Hopped on Matte and seeked out breakfast. I went to Apple Fritter and got a bacon hash and (finally) an Apple Fritter. This was the first time ever that they had apple fritters available when I have been there – since they often sell out. Once I finished my Fat Dog Agenda – I then headed up to the Treasure Island Flea – which is now the Treasure Island Fest.
Unfortunately this name change appears to be bad. One of my regular vendors I go to for tea and spices said next month will be their last. It has felt like for a bit that they are going higher end – and this is bad for me since it was one of the reasons I attended. Also I have noticed a drop in the more down to earth type of stands. Not everything needs to be 10 buck bars of organic goat milk soap or artisanal cupcakes. Sometimes we all need the cheap little stuff in our lives.
On the way back I stopped by Wicked Grounds. I noticed that I sometimes feel strange for having a life and interests outside of kink. Recently I have not been as active in the community due to many reasons. But also, I am tired of attending play parties and having nothing happen. My rule of thumb is if you want to have a scene with me, say something to me before and I can make it work. But I have hit the point where I have too much in my life to Stand and Model at an S&M party and have nothing happen.
Now I get to clean up the mess I made digging though lots of old mail for the hassles of yesterday.
Yes, I am addicted. For the last two weeks, I went without having a super-automatic espresso machine after my old one decided to stop working. I am not complaining too much for getting 13 years out of it. I realized how much more coffee I was going through making French Press and I also missed the taste of espresso. It was time to order a new one. So I claimed any recognition points at work for amazon gift cards and bought one – no one will ever argue over saving 300 bucks on a device like this.
Now that my coffee is back to being controlled by robots – I will have more time for selfies again.
But thinking about it – I think I have a fetish of being controlled by robots. There will be more info about a personal project I am working on with a friend control me in sexual situations. Stay tuned.
As I was waking up I was thinking to myself this morning, “Why am I beating myself up?” Little setbacks lately have been ended up as major issues. I really need to stop doing that. But why is this happening?
I think this is one of the downsides of living in San Francisco. You are surrounded by many successful people (or at least they portray that they are successful) in both your personal life and corporate life. When you have friends who do porn, who are perfect looking, who have no issues hooking up – it amplifies all of your imperfections. The people I know who look up to me often are shocked that I have these insecurities – but I do.
And it is the same thing on the business side. I meet up with people who seem to be successful entrepreneurs, or they are successful in a specific niche. There are days I ask myself, what I am missing? What could I be doing different to tap into this market?
This all leads to having any setback feel like a huge blow. Be it my weight or issues with my career. By all means I am doing well on both fronts. When all you have to compare yourself are externally perfect – it is hard to keep a balanced perspective on your life. I need to break this cycle.
This is also a reminder to everyone that what someone externally portrays themselves as is not always the reality